READ: 1 Samuel 18:1-5

“Her success is my success.” This quote has become an anthem of sorts for me. But, in my twenties, this quote would have caused a flood of emotions and convictions. How do we celebrate someone who stands in the place we wish we could be? Sometimes the lines become blurred between admiration and comparison. One causes us to cheer wildly for others while the other one has us keeping score and feeling behind.

Two dynamic characters play a significant role in the story of David and Jonathan- jealousy and devotion. While Jonathan’s father, Saul, despised David because the favor of the Lord was evidently on him, Jonathan allowed his heart to feel something far more powerful than jealousy.

Jonathan’s rightful place as an heir to the throne shifted by divine destiny as David was anointed the next in line king. His humanity could have unleashed a, “It should have been me” mentality, but it didn’t. Instead a friendship formed that was stronger than any other bond of brotherhood they had experienced before. The scriptures portray a mental picture of a knitting of souls, interwoven together for a holy purpose and plan. God gave Jonathan a love for David that made him an ally, not a foe.

“Now when he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.” { 1 Samuel 18: 1 }

“When God knits two hearts together it is always for a purpose”

I believe we can have deep relationships that are based on a covenant, instead of conditions. We long for connection but fear it at the same time because of other failed relationships and friendships. The story of David and Jonathan shows us the power of covenant relationships over position and power plays. Two hearts merged and one was not more important than the other because they truly loved as they loved their own soul.

Friendship is a gift but godly friendship should be a force. Side-by-side we are stronger, not sidelined. Click To Tweet

The other day, one of my best friends sent me something that she wrote. It said, “I will never ask you to feel small so I can feel big.”

Because the gift of her friendship, my heart has healed because we have been painfully honest with each other about our brokenness and together we shared breakthrough moments that have caused us to grow deeper in our faith. After I read her words I wrote a Sisterhood promise inspired by our soul-knitted friendship.

Sisterhood is a promise:

I will never ask you to be small so I can feel big.

It is not my job to fix you. It’s my job to show up for you. But, sometimes you will have to tell me what that looks like.

I will build you up. Sometimes that will mean saying some hard things to you, like get over yourself. I give you permission to do the same for me.

With Thanksgiving approaching quickly my heart is wrapped up in gratitude for those covenant friendships and knitted hearts. I know that my life is better because of the gift of each one. I pray that God will send you the gift of friendship that is both powerful and purposeful.

Believe it! Trust it! Live it!REFLECT:
  • Are you longing for that kind of friendship and covenant of heart but still afraid to open up your heart to someone? Pray that God will show you areas that might have a keep out sign in your life.
  • How can you live out the sisterhood promise and connect with your friends on a deeper level? Be brave and ask a friend how they need you to show up for them in a difficult season.
  • Are you ready to make this your anthem “Your success is my success?”

Lord,  You have knitted my heart with yours and have been my truest friend. I pray that you will open my heart to make real covenant friendships with others that is not conditional but purposeful. Heal the places in me that have been wounded by others and show me how to love someone like I love my own soul. Help me be that friend that celebrates others and cries with them when life has left them broken. I praise you for the relationships that have sharpened me and made me who I am today. May my friendships be a force for your kingdom and purpose. ~ Amen


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Jennifer Watson
Jennifer Watson
Jennifer Watson is a writer, youth minister, pastor’s wife, mother of two, and typical lipstick loving Southern girl. Jennifer has been in ministry for seventeen years and loves to speak at women’s retreats and special events. She likes her tea hot and sweet with lots of sugar and cream.

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