JOHN | Calling all control freaks! { DAY NINE }


Competing. Comparing. Controlling. Oh, and criticizing.

As a recovering control freak, I am very familiar with the need to have my hand in everything. Ev-er-y-thing!

I used to be full of opinions and didn’t hesitate to dish them out. I may or may not have done it in a catty, judgmental way. I’ll leave that part unsaid. I say used to because this is a stronghold in my life that I had to allow the Lord to break…and it hurt. Like, really bad. But He did it and I’m not that girl anymore. I talk different, think different, sound different. I’m in no way a stranger to sin and this temptation to entertain a controlling nature knocks on the door of my heart constantly. So, I’ve prayed: Lord, make me sick to my stomach when the desire to control rises up within me.

I don’t know best. I don’t have to have all the answers and I don’t want to throw stones at the ones who don’t do things my way. Just don’t let me do it. Chase me down, put your hand over my mouth, gag me if you have to, but don’t allow me to be a manipulator.

I can tell you, He answers prayers.

He takes the most unproductive parts of us and makes them productive. Click To Tweet

In John 9, Jesus meets a man that was blind from birth and does what He does best: He heals him. People in the town don’t even recognize him. They can not help themselves but stand in awe at what Jesus had done. A man who was once looked over was suddenly looked up to. Just like that.

They brought to the Pharisees the man who had been blind. Now the day on which Jesus had made the mud and opened the man’s eyes was a Sabbath. Therefore the Pharisees also asked him how he had received his sight. “He put mud on my eyes,” the man replied, “and I washed, and now I see.”

Some of the Pharisees said, “This man is not from God, for he does not keep the Sabbath.” 

But others asked, “How can a sinner perform such signs?” So they were divided. { John 9:13-16 }

At the root of control is fear. Fear of not being enough, fear of being forgotten or unimportant, fear of being vulnerable. You get it. So we try to control what we fear and we criticize what we can’t control. Control intentionally pushes people out so we don’t have to let anyone in.

That’s what the Pharisee’s were known for- guarding their titles, positions and anything else that was threatened by people not like them. All in the name of “holiness.” They had some words for the blind man: To this they replied, “You were steeped in sin at birth; how dare you lecture us!” And they threw him out. { John 9:34 }

Jesus healed him and they were threatened by the finished product. At the end of the day, we can make a name for ourselves or we can make a name for Jesus.

Controlling people, criticize. Free people, celebrate.

Oh Jesus, set us free.


  • Have you allowed the Lord to show you if there are any unproductive areas in your life?
  • Does fear creep in on a regular basis and effect your relationships with others?
  • Write out a prayer, asking the Lord to help you see things differently. Make it bold and don’t let yourself off the hook. Pray whatever is necessary to be a powerful and effective woman of God.
Kristin Bonin
Kristin Bonin
Hello! I’m Kristin Bonin: wife, mom, friend, speaker and writer. My name means “follower of Christ” and that’s pretty much who I am. Aside from being a sweet tea drinkin’, front porch sittin’, warm weather lovin’, southern girl (yes, we really do leave the “g’s” off at the end of words), I am also highly skilled at driving my kids to their extra-curricular activities, warming up pre-made food and asking Siri for help with homework. In the middle of my crazy, I somehow manage to find my Jesus and have learned to chase after Him while I’m also chasing the kids. I am a mom of girls and wife to my husband Chris, who is an avid runner and pun master. If time wasn’t a factor, I could read all day long and I am particularly fond of the Bible. Studying it and applying it is my heart and joy. You can find more about me at

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