Samaritan Woman: The Woman Who’s Worth It. { Day 3 }

When Women Encounter God Study

READ: John 4:1-45

“You don’t have to go out of your way to be rude!”

Being a mom of girls, this phrase is over-used in our house. Are sisters born with the innate instinct to constantly correct each other? I have two brothers, so the sister-sister dynamic is new to me. They love each other and go out of their way to be super sweet and kind. Then there are days when the opposite is in full effect and it takes extreme effort to agitate and irritate each other. It’s intentional and I’m convinced they love every second of it.

Out of all the things we can put effort into, how do we determine who and what we’re willing to go out of our way for?

If Jesus teaches us anything, it’s that people are always worth it. He goes the distance and beyond when it comes to his beloved.

Welcome to the story of the woman at the well.

“Now he had to go through Samaria.” {John 4:4 NIV }

Let’s stop right there. Did you catch the verbiage? He had to go through Samaria. Multiple translations use the word had except the NKJV that describes this endeavor as something Jesus needed to do. It becomes very clear Jesus had an appointment he went out of his way to make. The funny thing about this appointment is that the one he was going to meet had no idea she was on His calendar and He most certainly was not on hers. I chuckle to think about how many appointments Jesus has kept with me that I never knew I had until the moment he stepped into my situation.

Samaria- land of harsh racial and cultural conflict, avoided by most Jewish people, except Jesus.

“So he came to a town in Samaria called Sychar, near the plot of ground Jacob had given to his son Joseph. Jacob’s well was there, and Jesus, tired as he was from the journey, sat down by the well. It was about noon.” { John 4:5-6 NIV }

Here’s one thing we can be assured of: Jesus goes out of his way to find us in our struggles. Click To Tweet

He’s unafraid of places where tension and unrest reign or judgment and condemnation lurk. Not only will he gladly meet us there, He’ll sit and wait for us to emerge from our troubles so we can meet him face to face. He loves us too much to leave us soaking in our sins and sorrows.

There was a woman he had to meet. He knew her, but she did not know Him.  She had gone to the well in the heat of the day when others had gone in the cool of the morning. She went alone when others stuck together. Nothing about her felt like she belonged.

As she arrived at the well, there was Jesus and just like many of us, he saw her when she didn’t want to be seen. He asked for a drink and so begins the longest recorded conversation Jesus had with anyone in the Bible. We’ll eavesdrop on a portion of their dialogue:

“The Samaritan woman said to him, “You are a Jew and I am a Samaritan woman. How can you ask me for a drink?” (For Jews do not associate with Samaritans.) Jesus answered her, “If you knew the gift of God and who it is that asks you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water.” { John 4:9-10 NIV }

He saw what she could be rather than what she was. I’m so thankful for a God that see’s what we could be and yet loves us enough to speak honestly to us about where we are. In one fail swoop, Jesus offers to take her sin and sorrows. He offers relationship like she’s never experienced. When we bring Jesus the shame of our reality, He brings us the reality our hearts are so desperate to hear: It’s not about who we are. It’s about who He is.

He needed her to know something pivotal: this well is a source of life, but it’s not the source of life.

The woman said to him, “Sir, give me this water so that I won’t get thirsty and have to keep coming here to draw water.” { John 4:15-18 NIV }

He told her, “Go, call your husband and come back.”

“I have no husband,” she replied.

Jesus said to her, “You are right when you say you have no husband. The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.”

I get this girl! In fact, I read this story and think, “I am this girl!” I’m often tempted to ask Jesus to fix my problem without changing my heart. Just fix it, Jesus! Easy button, please!

He went deep in lighting fast speed. Her root of self-sufficiency had led her to a place of being her own source.  All she knew was how to find life in men. In fact, he doesn’t seem concerned about her behavior, nearly as much as what was making her act that way. He makes her a profound request: bring me the thing that has defined you for far too long.

Ugh. He might as well have said, “Give me all you know and I’ll give you all I have.” Our actions are indicators of what is going on inside of our hearts. If we don’t allow Jesus to steer our hearts in the right direction, we’ll end up on the wrong path. Show me someone who lives unashamed and I’ll bet real money they have allowed the Lord to speak to the hard places I mean, He truly asks for it all.

When we bring Him our source of truth, He exchanges it for His. And the entire course of our lives change….just like that. It can happen sitting at a well, a coffee shop or in your bed.

He goes out of his way to find us, breaks all the rules to define us and asks to be our source. Not just a source, the source!


  • Where do you go to find meaning and purpose? Take some time and name your wells.
  • Have you ever struggled to feel worthy of being called His? Or maybe just being called in general? List the things that hold you back from truly embracing being a child of God.
  • This one may hurt, honesty required: Is Jesus a source in your life or is he the source?


Lord, thank you for always looking at us and seeing what we could be. Would you meet us in the places of our lives that we are drawing from the wrong well? When we are looking to places other than you, redirect our hearts and remind us of the life you have to offer. When we taste your living water, nothing else satisfies. Fill us, Lord. And don’t hold back!

Kristin Bonin
Kristin Bonin
Hello! I’m Kristin Bonin: wife, mom, friend, speaker and writer. My name means “follower of Christ” and that’s pretty much who I am. Aside from being a sweet tea drinkin’, front porch sittin’, warm weather lovin’, southern girl (yes, we really do leave the “g’s” off at the end of words), I am also highly skilled at driving my kids to their extra-curricular activities, warming up pre-made food and asking Siri for help with homework. In the middle of my crazy, I somehow manage to find my Jesus and have learned to chase after Him while I’m also chasing the kids. I am a mom of girls and wife to my husband Chris, who is an avid runner and pun master. If time wasn’t a factor, I could read all day long and I am particularly fond of the Bible. Studying it and applying it is my heart and joy. You can find more about me at

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